Guest Rant of the Week – Not Trying But Not Preventing
As I am reaching 30 many people around me are starting think about getting pregnant. One phrase I keep hearing is “We’re not trying but not preventing.” I asked one of my, in her words actively trying, friends exactly what that meant. She tried to explain that trying meant charting her cycle, checking her temperature every day, and trying to time intercourse for the optimal time frame. Not trying but not preventing just meant not being on birth control. Since they aren’t actively following the woman’s bodily functions they aren’t really trying. Needless to say this makes no sense to me.
Maybe I’m just naïve but I was under the impression that if the woman stopped birth control it meant they were trying to have children. Isn’t that how things are done? You stop whatever method you were using, act like bunny rabbits, and wait to see what happens. Isn’t that been how people have been making babies for thousands of years? Has having kids become such a science that it requires charts and daily updates and scheduled sex? Is someone taking a more laid back method not really trying? Do you have to be thinking about it every minute of every day to be trying? Has even trying to get pregnant become a contest as to who can be the best before anything even happens?
If you’re not preventing pregnancy then you’re trying to have a kid. End of story.
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