Childfree (for Now) Celebrity Spotlight: Carrie Underwood
Indicating that she’d like to have kids someday, country singer Carrie Underwood doesn’t fit the mold for my usual Childfree celebrity spotlights. But I chose her for today’s post because she’s said some things that I hope will serve as a good reminder to the press hounding all the other starlets who are constantly fending off baby bump accusations.
Carrie on motherhood:
That’s never been my focus. My sister [Emily] was always very motherly, babysitting and stuff. I like kids, and I like being around kids — but it was never an ambition, something, like, I need … I like working. That’s what I like doing. I like to work.
A great reminder that we all have ambitions beyond parenthood, and some of us will choose to pursue them exclusively – and that’s okay! That’s what gives people time to create great music, art, writing, whatever. And it’s what’s given Carrie the opportunity to fully capitalize on her big break after winning American Idol back in 2005. Would she have gone on to become a multi-platinum artist and start dabbling in television and movies if she’d opted for the motherhood path in her twenties? Maybe, maybe not.
“We just want to be together and keep it as simple as possible. And I think a baby would just make things so complicated right now.”
I know no one’s going to draw out their tiny violin anytime soon, but celebrities DO have fairly complicated lives. For Carrie to recognize that, and make a conscious decision to wait until things have calmed a bit, should send a message to the press that she’s not going to have a baby just because everyone else wants her to. It’s also a good reminder that for some of us – even the non-celebs – things won’t ever calm down, and maybe that’s not the best environment into which to bring a baby.
“Everybody, like, is on this baby bandwagon, I don’t know what the deal is. But I would really like to figure out what it’s like to be married first, and I know he would too.”
Imagine that! Taking some time to figure out how you function as a unit before bringing a third party onto the scene! Or just enjoying hanging out with the person you loved enough to pledge your life to! What a novel idea.
“We’re good. I’m super busy and he is super busy. We are still newlyweds. I honestly think that if we brought a kid into it would mess things up right now! We’re good right now!”
The old “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” adage. Which should send a nice message to nosy relatives and friends everywhere that there’s no need to press things you’re not ready for when everything’s perfect as is. But that doesn’t seem to have reached this reporter, who said Carried revealed that “DESPITE her incredibly happy marriage to hockey player Mike Fisher, they’re going to hold off on starting a family.”
Or the author of this article on Taste of Country that says, “EVEN THOUGH Underwood and Fisher are as happy as two clams, there are no baby plans in the near future.” The implication being that if you don’t want kids yet, you must be in an unhappy marriage? Alright, I know I’m reading too much into what must be some fairly on-the-fly writing and reporting, but all of these comments are subtle reinforcers that the general population thinks there’s just something quite WEIRD about a happy couple who doesn’t want kids, like, now.
To wrap things up, here’s a comment from Carrie that resonated pretty strongly with the ole Maybe Lady:
“To be honest, one day I’m absolutely fine and happy and start legitimately thinking about the idea of having kids,” she said. “And another day, I’m like, ‘Oh, gosh, no. No. What?’”
I hear ya, sister. Turns out even celebrities aren’t immune to the Maybe Baby, Maybe Not pendulum. But I thank you, Carrie, for speaking up for the Fence-Sitters and Childfree everywhere. Not that the Paparazzi are going to take your hint, but we appreciate it just the same.